When I was a teenager I lived in a community where dressing as a boy was termed ‘cool’ when you sag your nicker or when you wear a ‘pencilled’ trouser.

I came to believe that this is simply the best way to live life and that if I don’t participate on that dress code then I am not ready to mingle with the big boys. I would be called a pastor if I had dressed responsibly; my trouser up to my waist and my clothe neatly ironed.

It became obvious that I was tempted to dress accordingly like them so I could feel ‘belong’. It almost became part of me: I sag my clothe. Do you know what? I liked it. Dressing that way came with a feeling that I am on top of the world not knowing that I just got lower.

However, after short term of experiencing the ‘feeling fly’ feeling I became to query my decisions after my mother disciplined me on the cause of that dress code. Not that she disciplined me with cane or something of that sort but with words that gave me reasons to be a better teenager and become a better personality come future. You know mothers; those, who their words or eyes could reset you to your default.

I endured their words that almost shattered my thoughts to living a responsible life and took the words of my mother that changed me into a role model for others coming up.

Truth be told, there are certain things that the society has termed ‘cool’ when in every sense it is so ‘uncool’. The likes of dressing, respect, responsibility, and honour. It’s all wrong and not ‘cool’.

Dressing almost naked and rugged so you can impress the mass is wrong. Respecting someone because of what they have and not who they are is wrong. Recognising someone who is irresponsible to be responsible because of his wealth or influence is wrong. Honouring someone who doesn’t deserve to be honoured is wrong. These are not normal.

Let us “Normalizes the Normal” and forget the abnormal where it was. It has done more harm than good; broken dreams, changed mindsets and disconnected the future from the hands of the real owners.

This is amongst many options to be considered in restoring the dignity of human existence as a society. Let’s fix this issue before it gets to a point where we see the abnormal as the normal and then, the Normal as the abnormal.

Dear one,

Normalise the Normal!

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Delay can be defined as a situation in which something happens later than it should.

Denial can be defined as an unwillingness to grant something asked for.

Delay is sometimes caused by our refusal to deny what has the capability to cause delay.

However, delay comes in order to teach us how to endure. For in endurance we get God’s Approval, and in getting God’s approval we have Hope.

What causes delay in Life is not far from Composure, Attitude and Relationship.

In Composure, how you act before an opportunity. Do you judge without reasoning? Do you make a Move without deep contemplation? Do you react without reasoning? Do you solve without calculation?

In Attitude, how you behave before a fellow human being. Do you segregate or despise? Do you irritate or devalue? Do you connect or disconnect? Do you engage or disengage?

In Relationship, how you relate with your fellow human beings. Do you appreciate each others work? Do you help each other achieve their goals? Do you complement solutions? Do you commend efforts made?

Delay sometimes comes when we are not ready.

If a child asks his father who owns an estate asks for a flat at an age of 8, his father won’t be able to give him such a wish because his son is yet to understand the value of what he is asking for.

You can’t get ahold of something you barely know how to manage or Value. You will devalue and mismanage it instead.

Everything In Life is accorded to your capacity. Temptations and challenges are accorded to your level of understanding. You don’t get what will kill or useless you. You get what you will be able to solve and excel. This is why there is a class, a division and a family.

Delay is also caused by the act of giving up and Lack of persistency in approaching what you intend doing.

Delay can not be avoided but certainly, the part or path of denial can be avoided.

This can be achieved through;

Knowledge ; The information you get from experiences. Teaching or being Taught. Working or being worked for. Leading or being lead.

I recommend you read my post on Why Books and Knowledge is not power

Understanding ; To form an opinion or reach a conclusion through reasoning and Information. Knowing how something works. Knowing what is being said or saying what is being known.

Wisdom ; The Application of knowledge through right conception. Applying what is being known and experienced in a justifiable way.

Hope you got value?

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