A Message to the Parents – Episode Three

Few weeks ago they had a festival: masquerades came out in their numbers and beautiful colours.

This week, on my way to a destination, I saw them: children. The oldest was 8 and the youngest was 4 or a year less, mimicking the masquerades on a ‘some kind’ lonely road.

One covered with a blue clothe designed with some sticks to make the crown’s veil long. This had a square like sticks arranged on the edge with some thread dropping from the square.

The other made a head tie and flipped it forward to look like a veil.

At sight, I cautioned them immediately and warned them to go back home and drop them.

It fell on deaf ears. But since words sometimes can’t discourage a child talk more of children, I kept quiet and looked away the second time I passed through the road despite their masquerading noise to get my attention.

READ ALSO: A message to the parents – Episode two

The third time I passed, they weren’t there. They had left to someplace close to where I was going to. Though they weren’t engaged in it. I hope they will never be engaged in such.

What made them left there was my lack of attention to their stupidity and acclaimed fun. If I had praised and hailed them for their nonentity, they would have gloried in it and their sense will automatically approve it as something worth dying for.

Children of about 1 – 15 on the average ‘Listens’ to actions. This is why you don’t need to explain ‘so much’ to them before they assimilate; sometimes you need to ACT for them assimilate. It sinks better.

Dear Parents,

Train your child in a way, through a path, so that when they grow up you won’t have to regret taking them along.

It is not easy, simple or simply easy. But, IT IS WORTH IT!

READ ALSO: A message to the parents – Episode one

A message to the parents – Episode two

Nothing gives me joy like seeing a family that stays together. Especially when the parents are having a good time with their children.

Chai. That alone is wonderful. Very wonderful.

Just yesterday a friend uploaded a video of him having a good time with his boys. I was so happy.

About a month ago too, my classmate in the secondary days uploaded a video on his WhatsApp status of his Dad having a good time with his siblings over there in the abroad. I was so happy.

I love seeing family having a good time together. It gives me ripples of joy and happiness. And I must commend all family living together and peacefully and lovely. Especially parents bringing out time to spend quality time with their children.

Let me tell you something really.

What they are doing now may look like a waste of time to some people but trust me, that little time spent with them gives those children a level of confidence that no one else can take.

If you only know the pain of growing up without a father, you will care less of what the society is saying and spend quality time with your family. I mean, quality time!

There is something great about spending time with others. I tell you, there is. If you think that you can have a full degree of happiness alone, you are jokingly on your way to depression. Don’t be deceived with this idea of generating happiness alone and alone. Nah, that’s invalid.

Just wait and see if nobody views your status on WhatsApp or if nobody buys your products or if nobody listens to your message. Na there you go know what’s really up!

You can generate happiness alone oh. Yes, you can. But if you want it to make more of a degree of sense and validity, try generating it with your family. That’s where the oil well of happiness is.

I, generally, don’t like moody places oh. Tah, who wants to be in a place that lacks light of laughter or happiness for one slightest joke said.

I’ve come to the knowledge of generating happiness where my family is. It is really scintillating and elating. Sometimes, if I observe how moody the presence is, I will just give a shout. Trust me that alone can make you wonder and laugh.

Parents should endeavour to spend time with their family, please. It builds them mentally, psychologically, spiritually and otherwise.

Don’t be too serious when it comes to your family Biko. Joke a little. Don’t be too busy and don’t be too caring. Balance the equation.

I pity those family that their children don’t even witness warmth hug or laughter or jokes or time with their parents. Time will tell how disastrous it will be.

Family is and will always be the first ministry God instituted on Earth. Your first pulpit should be in your home. Your first sermon should be in your home. Your first everything should be in your home. Because that’s where the battle ground is.

If the devil wants to attack a Nation he starts from the family.


Because that’s where everyone is made who he is today. A child who grows to be a politician will walk in his father’s or mother’s tutelage. And let’s take for an instance that the parents were drunkards, fighters and badly inclined, don’t you think that the child will find a meaning out of that lifestyle?

God has blessed us with all that we have. Let’s not take it away from ourselves just because we are too busy to listen to them when they needed our attention instead of gifts.

Arise, oh you family! Arise.

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A Message to the Parents – Episode one

Dear Parents,

Attention is what your children need not your gifts. If they had wanted the gifts they could have asked for it and if they ask,you will not be able to afford it in the market because it is within you. And the only way you can give them is by showing them the attention. The gift is Love! That feeling and presence that resurrects the Man and Woman in them.

Spank them and discipline them but do not forget to offer them this free gift with which you will make them better parents like you in the future.

Remember this;

Business and church is come to stay. But your children won’t remain children forever. They will someday grow and become parents like you. And for them to be able to walk closer and in the way of the Lord, you need to start now by giving them the attention and proper Godly training and upbringing they need.

The future depends on this responsibility.

Thanks to @cybernal for making this photo available freely on @unsplash 🎁